Category: Body & Soul

The Occasional Woman

| Mar 27, 2017 | Comments (1)

Some members of the trans community, especially on the crossdressing end of the spectrum, love to dress sexy, or some would say slutty. That causes a bit of conflict with those who feel all trans folk should blend in with other ladies of their age in their surroundings. To be tastefully dressed and attractive as a woman is what they feel the goal to be. Today The Occasional Woman looks at the fashion mistakes a girl can make and cautions against them. This is not to say that you shouldn’t ever wear that extreme mini with those ten inch platform pumps. Just think a bit about the impression you intend to make on your audience. If you’re hoping to hear “Look at that sexy slut” then go for it. If you want advice on being sultry while sedate give this post a read.

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Will she be remembered?

| Mar 27, 2017 | Comments (4)

Due to the nature of the trans/crossdressing community over the past few decades people often don’t learn that a friend from their crossdressing life has passed away — one day they stop seeing their friend at the usual places, the local TG-friendly club, or at the annual crossdresser weekend getaway. Many in the community separate their two lives and never reveal their male self to their female self’s friends. Today Cate O’Malley talks about a trans friend who passed away. Cate was fortunate to learn of her passing and attended the funeral — only to find a strange man’s body in the casket.

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Kim’s Adventure Time

| Mar 27, 2017 | Comments (0)

Meet our newest contributor, Kim. Today she tells you her “origin story.” All about when she first felt that she wasn’t like the other boys, and later in life when she began to realize she might have never been a boy. Today’s introductory episode of Kim’s Adventure Time tells her early life story and many readers will find it familiar. Get to know her in her introductory blog.Give it a read and use the comment area (after logging in) to welcome Kim as a TGForum contributor!

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Today Was a Good Day

| Mar 20, 2017 | Comments (1)

California is a big state and there are parts of it, like San Francisco, that sound like the perfect place to be for a trans person. The city itself has benefits for trans employees, there is a tolerant attitude toward trans people and anti-discrimination laws to protect trans people’s rights. But it’s also expensive to live there these days. Our Amanda has been living 50 miles east of the city and out her way things are not so great. On St. Patrick’s Day she decided to take a ride in her new car and for once she experienced a good day. She took some photos to show why it was so good for her soul.

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Every Camel Has Its Straw

| Mar 20, 2017 | Comments (1)

Those in the trans community who live a “double life” having a male identity with male friends and associated and their other female identity with her friends can often find themselves in an awkward place when their male self is having a conversation with someone who knows nothing about the other life and begins to make biased and ignorant statements regarding “trannies.” Our contributor Proja Braga had a situation like that and she writes about the final straw.

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Ask Mistress Samantha  

| Mar 20, 2017 | Comments (0)

Mistress Samantha is a Lifestyle Mistress who has been actively involved in the Transgender/Crossdressing Community for almost twenty years. She started a successful Adult Phone Service over eighteen years ago. Since then, she’s personally advised, guided and fantasized with literally thousands of members of the Crossdressing, Transsexual, and Sissy Communities. In her TGF column, Ask Mistress Samantha, she answers your personal questions.

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Methods of Training for Male to Female Voice

| Mar 13, 2017 | Comments (0)

So you’re all dressed up and looking good as an attractive woman should but you’re too worried to go out of the house and mingle with the rest of the world for fear that your male voice will give you away. There is only one remedy for that and it requires doing a lot of work to achieve a believable feminine voice that matches your look. Speech therapist Marc Mitnick has some exercises for you. Whether you are a part time girl or a trans woman these techniques can help you find your feminine voice.

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Tranny Queer, the Beginning of Bent

| Mar 13, 2017 | Comments (0)

The Artist D is exploring why we have stick with a particular gender. Why not be what we want to be when we want it? Is it really necessary to pick one and move along? Gender fluidity is a growing phenomena in the trans world. Mixing elements of masculine and feminine becomes more common every day. Join The Artist D as she treks into the gender jungle and seeks out bold new ways to live and be happy.

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What Got Us Started? What Keeps Us Going?

| Mar 6, 2017 | Comments (0)

Linda set out to discover what different crossdressers did about “coming out.” She has spoken to one who only told her wife. She wrote about another who hasn’t told anyone, even her wife, and another girl who has told all of her friends and associates about her femme self. Then Linda thought about another friend and she realized she was still on a voyage of personal discovery. Her friend shares Linda’s twist on the nature vs. nurture debate on the formation of one’s desire to crossdress and in today’s post the two go on to talk about what keeps them going.

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Songbyrd: Becoming She

| Mar 6, 2017 | Comments (0)

We welcome guest contributor Caisie Breen to TGF. Ms. Breen has written a book about her life and we are happy to present some of it here. Ms. Breen, came into the world as William Edward Casey and lived as a male for fifty-five years. His first marriage failed at the age of 21, leaving two daughters, Michelle and Nicole, with their mother. A year later, he met the love of his life, his Brenda Sweet, they were married and eventually had two sons, Ryan and Brandon. Today, Caisie Breen lives with her wife Brenda, in Portland, Oregon and own a small plumbing business. All four children are adults.

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Trans Kids – Our Kids

| Feb 27, 2017 | Comments (0)

Trans children are gaining more recognition in the world but there are still far too many who are experiencing rejection by their families, bullying and harassment from their peers and many end up homeless. Cate O’Malley feels it’s up to us, the members of the trans community, to treat these children as if they were our own. She feels it’s up to us to lend our experience and information to the kids and to any parents, guardians or agencies tasked with helping trans kids.

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Recognized

| Feb 20, 2017 | Comments (1)

Recognition. Many of us hope for it. To be singled out from the crowd and given a nod or a pat on the back. Others avoid recognition at all costs. Trans people in “stealth” mode for example. They want to be seen as members of their true gender and don’t want anyone telling them how brave they are for being different. So they don’t let the world know. Today Sophie Lynne writes about recognition. Recently she was chosen to appear in a production of The Vagina Monologues and that got her recognition. Because she stepped on to a stage and told her truth. She contrasts that with the recognition she often gets at her workplace. Most of it not good for her soul. Read her post on how she feels about being Recognized.

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Anxiety Storm

| Feb 20, 2017 | Comments (2)

Tonight was a rough night. It was bad enough that it made me break into a hard cry. Work is definitely an anxiety trigger for me. I realize this. My retail job puts me right in the middle of hordes of people. That is very hard on a person who fights anxiety. Today it was […]

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Princesas de la Noche – Día o Noche

| Feb 20, 2017 | Comments (0)

The night time is a magical time. Whether you are a crossdresser or not the night time has a sense of mystery and wonder. It seems like anything could happen. Our Columbian correspondent has been sending posts about the Princesses of the Night in her city. How the romance and glamor is heightened by the darkness. Today she talks about going out as a woman in the day light. It’s a different experience for sure. Of course she writes en Español so use Google Translate if you don’t know the language.

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A First Time for Everything

| Feb 20, 2017 | Comments (0)

Every crossdresser has a tale of the first time. The first time they went out into the world of straight people dressed in their finest femme attire. For some it’s attending a Halloween party. Others decide to get dolled up for some event like a concert or trans friendly movie. Today our contributor Porja Braga tells her “first time” story and encourages you to make it a priority to live your “first time” out and about en femme.

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Retro Rerun: De-Wigged

| Feb 13, 2017 | Comments (0)

Today’s Retro Rerun is from 1997. TGForum contributor Jayne Nicole wrote about an incident that most crossdressers would say was one of their worst nightmares. How would you handle it if while you were sitting in a crowded restaurant getting ready to enjoy a late night breakfast with your friends when some trouble maker snatched off your wig and walked away with it? What would you do? Find out how Jayne Nicole’s friend handled the situation in this Retro Rerun.

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Out and About: Part of the Amanda Ryan Story

| Feb 6, 2017 | Comments (0)

In her current series of articles Linda Jensen is telling you the stories of crossdressers (persons who crossdress, if you prefer) who have each handled the self-revelation issues of when, who, and how to tell in very different ways. Linda’s aim in revealing how these people “came out” is to show that there are different strategies and each can work for the individual. These methods may not work for you but could help you formulate a strategy. Today she talks with Amanda who is totally open about he crossdressing with her family, neighbors and even her dentist.

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Tranny Queer, the Love of Nasty Words

| Feb 6, 2017 | Comments (0)

“It’s only words, and word are all I have…” A line from a song. A song about the power of words, and it so happens that The Artist D’s post today is about the power of words. Like we planned it, or something. What words, you ask? Tranny. Queer. And other words that people use with differing intent. Some use the words to hurt. Other use the words to empower. Read The Artist D’s post and see if you can love the nasty words too.

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Songbyrd: Becoming She

| Feb 6, 2017 | Comments (0)

We welcome guest contributor Caisie Breen to TGF. Ms. Breen has written a book about her life and we are happy to present some of it here. Ms. Breen, came into the world as William Edward Casey and lived as a male for fifty-five years. His first marriage failed at the age of 21, leaving two daughters, Michelle and Nicole, with their mother. A year later, he met the love of his life, his Brenda Sweet, they were married and eventually had two sons, Ryan and Brandon. Today, Caisie Breen lives with her wife Brenda, in Portland, Oregon and own a small plumbing business. All four children are adults.

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What’s Happening with Trans Kids?

| Jan 30, 2017 | Comments (1)

Dana Bevan looks into what’s going on with today’s trans kids. Unlike the old days when trans kids kept quiet about their gender identity today’s trans kids are coming out much sooner. Is that good for trans children? What problems will they face that are different from the older generation’s who came out later in life? What advantages will they have for coming out at a young age? Dana takes a look at the available data and provides some insights into what we know, and makes recommendations for further study.

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Calling it Quits

| Jan 30, 2017 | Comments (2)

Cate O’Malley has a few friends who have decided to give up expressing their true selves and go back to living as males 24/7. None of them are doing it willingly. They fervently wish they could continue to be who they really are, but circumstances in their lives have forced this decision on them. Cate shares her thoughts on how hard it must be to deny your true nature after being able to express it, at least part time, then going back to expressing your gender facade. She has advice for those faced with this decision and advice for others in the community who may not look at these people’s decisions kindly.

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No Bad News, Please

| Jan 30, 2017 | Comments (1)

Amanda would like to report on the good news in her life but for some reason the bad news seems to far outweigh the good. While she has met people on the Left Coast, and she has a couple of friends, she just can’t seem to connect with more people for friendship or for romance. Is it the atmosphere in northern California? Are people too nervous waiting for the next earthquake that they can’t see a great person in front of them who wants to engage? Whatever the reason Amanda is again thinking about the rivers and hills of Pittsburgh. Would they be a better fit for her?

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Princesas de la Noche — “Caminando en Solitario de Noche por Bogotá”

| Jan 23, 2017 | Comments (2)

We present another blog with a video by Katherine Diaz, our contributor from Bogota, Columbia. Today’s installment about life in Columbia is titled “Caminando en Solitario de Noche por Bogotá.” In English that’s “Walking Alone at night in Bogota.” Katherine does it all the time and talks about the experience en Español.

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Looking Ahead to the End

| Jan 23, 2017 | Comments (0)

Julie Guam has been sharing her memories of crossdressing throughout her life and last month she brought us up to date on her story. Her post today is about something all crossdressers need to consider, what happens after we pass away? Not to our souls. What happens to our collection of feminine attire and who will be in charge of disposing of it all? Of course that depends on who knows about our dressing up and who we care about knowing after we’re gone. Give Julie’s post a read for some if her ideas about preparing for the inevitable.

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Face Your Fear

| Jan 23, 2017 | Comments (1)

We welcome a new contributor today who brings yet another perspective to TGF. Her name is Porja Braga and she lives in Georgia with her wife. Today she blogs about how she became aware that she was different and appreciated the consequences of being different at a young age. She also has advice on how to deal with the fears that keep many trans people captive in the closet.

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Verbal Communication & Percieved Cultural Views of Gender

| Jan 16, 2017 | Comments (0)

Today Marc Mitnick presents the differences between the male and female verbal communication. He excerpts from Julia T Woods book, Gendered Lives: Communication, Gender and Culture. Masculine speech is used to exert control and enhance status. Feminine speech is focused on feelings and relationships. Knowing the differences is important when you cross the gender border.

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