TGForum contributor Sophie Lynne found herself, unprepared, behind a podium giving testimony to her town’s borough council about an LGBT equality statute the council was preparing to vote on. Moved to speak when the floor was opened for public comment Sophie put up her hand, was acknowledeged, and went to the podium. What she said proved to be quotable and showed up in the local papers, along with her photo taken as she spoke. The statute passed. But Sophie feels many people who have been symbols for the fight for trans rights haven’t gotten the recognition they deserve. Today she writes about those Symbols.
Recognition. Many of us hope for it. To be singled out from the crowd and given a nod or a pat on the back. Others avoid recognition at all costs. Trans people in “stealth” mode for example. They want to be seen as members of their true gender and don’t want anyone telling them how brave they are for being different. So they don’t let the world know. Today Sophie Lynne writes about recognition. Recently she was chosen to appear in a production of The Vagina Monologues and that got her recognition. Because she stepped on to a stage and told her truth. She contrasts that with the recognition she often gets at her workplace. Most of it not good for her soul. Read her post on how she feels about being Recognized.
The election and recent inauguration of President Donald J. Trump has raised fears in the trans community. The incoming vice president has, as governor of Indiana, signed laws restricting the rights of LGBT people in his state and supported laws denying trans access to public restrooms. President Trump has flip flopped on trans restroom rights. No one knows what he thinks on various issues. What does the future under the Trump administration hold for trans people? Sophie Lynne is worried, scared, and ready to fight back.
Miss Sophie Lynne was late with her post this month. Of course she has been busy. Works in retail and all that, so you wouldn’t expect her to turn her work in on time after a grueling day on the job. A job with extended holiday hours, too. So when she turned in her assignment late we semi-gave her but she has to have some punishment. That will be stepping up to the front of the room and reading her essay, “Late Christmas.”
Like many in the U.S. Sophie had hopes for the next four years under the leadership of a more liberal administration, possible with more cooperation from congress, that would protect the rights of trans people. After the election when the Electoral College votes gave the presidency to the Republican candidate Sophie was in shock. She pulled back from social media and had to adjust to this radical shift in reality. Today she shares some of her thoughts on how the election will affect her and other trans people for at least the next four years.
Several years ago it was a suggestion from Sophie’s wife that lead her to break down the wall that sealed off her feminine spirit. Her wife suggested that they go to a Halloween party with Sophie as Lois Lane and her wife as Clark Kent. It turned out to be the suggestion that turned Sophie’s life upside down and lead to her transition. That’s why since that fateful All Hallow’s Eve the holiday has had even more of a special meaning for her. Read all about her relationship with the Holiday and wearing costumes in today’s post.
What do you do when the path you have chosen, the path you must follow, takes you to territory that hurts? Takes you to a place where abuse and disrespect are common treatment and there is no, or very little relief. Our dear Sophie Lynne took the path she had to follow and it lead her to that place. A place where her family stepped away from her. A place where crying herself to sleep was the norm. She tried and tried but there was pain. So, she made a plan. A plan for a solemn morning in the peace of Valley Forge Park. But, when that morning came and she was there, alone with the pre-dawn wildlife and her thoughts — she let go of her plan.
Today Sophie reflects (some would say broods but that’s too harsh) on life as she approaches her 2016 birthday. As John Fogerty sang “Big wheel keeps on turning…” so go the years as we travel around the Sun on our small planet and Sophie looks back on the previous revolutions of the cosmic wheel and what she has done with those years. She also lets us know how she “pays the rent.” Today’s post is a moving column that will touch everyone — and it lets us know that we need to start planning her surprise birthday party.
Sophie’ family is going on vacation. Without Sophie. On the ride to the airport Sophie’s daughter asks a question that while on one hand is about attitudes and actions within Sophie’s extended family is also a universal question about why people act the way they do. The answer is too long and complicated to tell her daughter during that airport ride so Sophie dropped of her family and went home to write her daughter a letter, a letter she will receive when she is 18. You can read Sophie’s letter to her daughter today. Have some tissues at hand.
We all spend our lives going from one “first” to the next. When we’re little we use the potty for the first time. We take our first steps and say our first words. Trans people are often delayed in experiencing some of the “firsts” of their gender since the world believes they aren’t girls or boys. A young trans girl won’t get to wear her first bra at the same time her schoolmates are getting theirs. So the trans girl has to make her own first bra wearing experience. Sophie Lynne shares her first time wearing her mom’s bra and she invites you to leave a comment with recollections of your first time doing something typical to your gender identity.
Recently Sophie Lynne took a trip with her roommate to retrieve her roommate’s belongings from a storage facility in Michigan. Now the collection of stuff her roomy accumulated sits in their living room. The trip made Sophie contemplate the many items she is holding on to that were obtained by the person she used to pretend to be. Why does she keep his stuff when it will all be meaningless after Sophie is gone? Read on and find out why she holds on to the Remains of an Old Life.
Sophie Lynne has been feeling the burden of living authentically. It’s hard for many to be who they are when there are elements of our society that use trans people as a political hockey puck without caring what happens to that puck as long as giving people something to hit with a stick serves their political agenda. Being hit by conservatives was wearing Sophie down but the support for trans people announced by the Obama administration, and an incident at her pharmacy, served to revive her and get her back in the good fight.
Sophie has lost a friend. A friend she never met in person but a person who interacted with her on social media for many years and was supportive of Sophie’s transition. Even offering fashion advice and other support. Today Sophie talks about her loss and she has advice on how mere mortals can deal with mortality. Have tissues on hand before you read “For Julie.”
Last week our Sophie Lynne turned two. It has been two years since she came out to the world about her true gender. On her second birthday Sophie responds to a friend’s question, “And looking back on it all, would you do it the same?” Sophie admits to being happy with her decision to transition, and she credits it with keeping her alive, but would she handle it the same way? Read on and find out.
Sophie Lynne is a staunch liberal and progressive when it comes to politics. Today she makes comments on the passing of Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia. As you might expect Sophie is not mourning the passing of a judge who used his strict interperation of the Constitution to make decisions that have been at odds with the needs of LGBT people, and the general public. Sophie has some things to speak about the deceased that she feels are true. Give her blog and read and see how you feel.
Sophie Lynne has been wondering whether people who tell her they know how it feels to be treated differently because she is transgender means can really have an understanding of what it’s like. As a trans person she admits that she doesn’t know what it’s like to have been born with a female body. How can cisgender people have a clue about what it’s like to be trans? Sophie has one idea.
Dickens Christmas tale has Sophie musing about the ghosts that all of us are haunted by. Some of those ghosts are good and some are bad but they all affected us as we traveled though our lives. Sophie points out that while these ghosts of people in our past, and in our present, can influence us and push us one way or another, in the end we make our decisions and are responsible for them.
Now that Halloween is done people begin to turn their attention to the other holidays that are more family oriented. Thanksgiving and Christmas are approaching. For many people these holidays with with family focus are not joyful. They can be lonely and painful. Especially in the case of people who have been rejected by their families because of who they are. Sophie Lynne has a suggestion that may help some people through the holiday season.
It’s almost time for Halloween and the ghosts, goblins and ghouls will be competing with the Donald Trumps for as much Halloween candy as they can get. Sophie Lynne has mixed feelings about Halloween. On the one hand it’s the holiday that let her true-self out of the closet. On the other hand now that she’s out and living as her true-self she doesn’t want to be anyone else.
The march from summer into fall and eventually to winter has a tendency to bring some people down. The falling leaves and the colder temperatures don’t evoke the pleasures that can be found in fall. For some it brings on depression. Sophie Lynne sees the world sliding into the autumn and she feels like this year we should seize the change and turn it positive by working to educate, agitate and make the world better for trans people.
A couple of weeks ago, one of my dear friends, Amy, had her GRS done by Dr. Christine McGinn. Last weekend, I visited Amy at Gaia House, the recovery house for Dr. McGinn’s practice. Amy was in great spirits and enjoyed having visitors after her successful surgery. During the visit, another person staying at Gaia […]
Sophie Lynne is drawn back to Gettysburg, the scene of one of the most important engagements on the Civil War. It’s a peaceful place now but over three days in 1863 thousands of men on both sides met their deaths on those fields. Sophie goes to remember and also to learn a lesson in the pervasiveness of life.
Boob sweat! It’s what happens when you have boobs. That’s something Sophie Lynne found out when hers grew. There are lots of other things that happen to you when you transition. Privilege changes, you need to find a feminine anti-perperant and you learn what women talk about when there are no men around. Today Sophie shares some of the things she’s learned.
When we wondered about the lawsuit brought by a former employee of Barnes & Noble in Huntington Beach, California we went to someone who has experience in the retail book biz. And someone who has experience in undergoing transition while working in that business. That someone is our own Sophie Lynne. Learn what she thinks about the trans woman who was fired when she she announced her transition.